I was going to sit down and talk about how hard the past week was…how draining.
And it was, in its way. For whatever reason, there was an abundance of drama over the past eight days, the missed deadlines, botched communication and general farkakte-ness that seems to accompany Mercury going retrograde. (I wonder, could things have been this messed up before I knew about such silly nonsense?)
There was also a paucity of rest. Social engagements out the wazoo, back-to-back, every day but one. Not light-hearted ones: thinking ones. Emotionally draining ones. Ones that required attention, a lot of driving, or both.
Like my ex-husband’s wedding reception, where I was the surprise guest to a raft of folk who hadn’t seen me since I lost them in the divorce eight years ago (let it never be said that my ex doesn’t have a wicked sense of humor…or his new bride, for that matter). Like dinner with the one friend of my dad’s who stood by my sister and me in the ugly, ugly aftermath of his death. Most devastatingly, like the memorial service for a brilliant 26-year-old artist who was stolen from the world too soon. It took three beers, The BF and a Harold Lloyd flick to talk me down from that last night.
I want to run and hide when it gets like this. I want to live in a place where it rains a lot and gets dark early, where I can bundle myself up in a scruffy, fluffy sweater and read books on the sofa with a bottomless mug of peppermint tea. Instead, I live in an overbuilt parking lot with fires breaking out at each end, wearing boxers against the heat and earplugs against the noise. And I have no upholstered furniture. Still.
Fret not, however, for in the midst of all this mishigoss, I am, bizarrely enough, happier than ever. There is work work work and feeling like you do not make a difference, and there is the other kind; right now, and for some time, I feel like I’ve been living the other kind. It’s exhausting, but wonderful. Not particularly lucrative, even, but wonderful. I never felt this way after a day of wrangling copy. Never. Not once. And I did that for 10 years and a lot of money.
Still, this schedule is a brutal one to maintain, and something has to give. It’s kind of been my health, which has to stop, and it’s definitely been my “optional” writing, which also has to stop.
It’s the optional-type writing, you see, that’s made all this possible. I’m starting to get it now. So it really isn’t optional at all for the life I want to live.
People: create. Make things. Think things and write them down, or tell them, or draw them. Note things and mull them over (or not) and pass them along (for sure.) When I get bone-tired like this, I can feel the pull to buy. It’s odd; I feel it. Possibly other people feel the pull to watch TV (I used to feel that, although I’d never give it my full attention) or to play games. Consuming isn’t inherently evil, but it leaves you more empty than full.
Tonight I made a (SCD-legal) pizza and this post. It was all I could muster after a long day of pushing pixels. But that pizza tasted better than anything I could get delivered.
And this post? Even better than that…